Bad dating choices
In my work as a relationship coach and blogger, I hear it over and over again — yet, at some level, it still takes me by surprise — "Why do so many really smart, accomplished and attractive women go for 'bad boys' or Alpha males?" In other words, why does someone who has the potential to be an incredible catch sabotage herself with such poor choices?This woman, like all of us, is guided by her internalized model of relationships and the quality of attachment in her early life experiences (see previous postings for a discussion of attachment).Her self-concept is also impacted by her experiences in society at large.
For instance, imagine you’re on an online dating site seeking men who had college degrees, were in a certain weight and body class, and were looking to have children.Whether you decided to read the entire article or not, one thing should be patently clear: The writer’s perception of the Black-dating dynamic is more indicative of HER own dating decisions than of the community at large.Let’s keep it funky for a second: If you date, congregate and conjugate with only FROWSY ass people, your negative perception of the dating scene is not true of the MAJORITY, but just simply reflective of the fact that you continually make terrible F*^King decisions All men DON’T cheat, all men are NOT afraid of marriage, all men DON’T smash jumpoffs raw dog and all men ain’t out here pushing candy-painted ‘lacs trying to get chicks with pink and lime weaves to give us head in the front seat so we can record it and post it on Worldstar It makes me absolutely SICK to hear dudes complain about all women being stanking-ass gold-diggers, or complaining that all women are just trying to TRAP a dude with an illegitimate baby, or that all women spend their baby bonus and food stamp money on getting her hair and nails did, because that’s not reflective of ALL women.Marketing from online dating sites often suggests that having more choices is most beneficial, because you have more options from which to choose.But what they don’t say is that the more options you have, the more work you have to do to find profiles that actually match what you’re looking for. The participants were 128 youths and adults from southern Taiwan (69 men, 59 women; ages 18 to 36 years) who had membership in online-dating Web sites, as determined on a screening questionnaire.